To most people, this may not be perceived as a real medical emergency, but it could have turned into something much worse. There are many types of manipulators in relationships, but most of them have the same qualities when it comes to blaming others for everything and taking no responsibility. I was completely scared and alone. I chose to err on the side of actual panic attack. Robert see if you can get her to start REGULARLY taking a good quality vitamin B-complex supplement each morning. There are of course quiet people who are quiet because they dont have much to say. Get her cookies. Innovators tend to be solipsists. He asked for two separate weeks, the first I said I would have to check with my wife. My neighbour was adamant she had not had any contact with the police officer dealing with the gate slamming. I would give you a big hug if I could. It is not loving to make nice behavior harder for others, and a lack of permanent unshakable loyalty, IS putting a stumbling block in front of a spouse, or child, etc. I prefer to write as I would speak to a friend. A quiet moment for a generally calm person might mean they are swallowing anger or sadness in that moment. So you better learn to deal with it. This is a decision you can choose to make. You could be right! Maybe some good changes are on the way for you too. After a point, when theres no reasoning left, all you can do is gather solid evidence. This is a great starting point to begin the next steps in solving the situation. The police said her children would have yo go into care if they arrested her ( they eventually came at 11pm) and in an act of kindness I agreed not to press charges. The example that you used of the lady on the plane was quite simplistic She was looking you in the eye and telling you exactly what her problem was. This leads us to the fourth step in dealing with irrational people:. Thanks Paul! Let me know how it goes. Like the bull, Taurus absolutely hates to be pushed and prodded in any situation, but especially when he's being irrational. The content produced by YourTango is for informational and educational purposes only. Whats the solution? Soon, he'll figure out that nothing is changing when he continues to be stubborn, and he'll eventually take the necessary steps to solve what's putting him off. Im so glad I found this article, I am currently dealing with my mom being very irrational and my whole family has no idea what to do or how to go about it. When you act even more irrational, you are able to lead her. Can something else placate them for now? You are not abandoning them, you are honoring YOU and what you want in your life. If you offer him any advice, he will refuse to take it. Then, to get to the bottom of this, you might say something like, We need to set cameras up in your room. If we dont disagree with the persons point of view, this will help us figure out where they are right now, and will also help bring them back to a more rational state. The irrationality goes into full gear, no pun intended, when the suspect drives faster and thinks he or she can keep control of the car while going way beyond the speed limit. Thank you for your comment. She left her purse with me, a stranger she just met, and became laser focused on fulfilling that need. It might feel like he's just acting crazy and flaky because that's what rational Sagittarius would do but in fact, he just doesn't know where to start to solve his problems. The Ones Who Stuff Their Feelings. Finally, its very important to remember that irrational behavior can sneak up on you. He can be obstinate if he thinks he's being rushed, so it's better to let him solve his problems on his own time. It might make them uncomfortable enough to actually stop being irrational. I said more emphatically, No, I dont want to!, He persisted, Come on, lets go. So, this is really the nuclear option for me. Some people you just have to avoid at all costs, unfortunately. Try to understand what is the key issue and just be there to help them work through it. Tell him to wait and think before he acts, and he'll make a rash and impulsive decision on the spot. When all Im actually doing is questioning their opinions, using logic and reason. Its horrendous. To deal with an irrational Gemini, start with asking him what he thinks would help. If you dont want to do either of those, you may have to move. I replied in a soft voice, Im just trying to show you where we need to go, Im trying to help. Their meaning may not even be accurate, which offers them a much different perspective than ours. Then, actually *take* those steps! Its not about us, its about them. Try to strike a compromise. Yes, they can be a drain. The kind of people I deal with are people who simply cannot accept the fact that they are wrong about something. He'll act very selfish letting everyone know that his problems are all about him and anyone who tries to butt in will pay the price because he can. In this article, I want to give you some useful strategies that you can use to deal with irrational people. My brother and sister are the last of our line, so we have no stake in trying to pass on knowledge or even if it matters. He is a much stronger person when he embraces who he is rather than be someone he's not. Family is one of those things that is a lot harder to rip apart just to find some peace in your life. 5. Im now trying to process your concept of irrationality comes down to fulfilling a need to my own situation of caring for my 65% loving yet 35% irrational elderly mother, who now I understand in hindsight always suffered from personality disorder. When a romantic partner is being irrational, open communication needs to take place at first. One approach is to ask: Whats really going on with you lately? I wouldnt. Thanks for the reply. I realize thats easier said than done, but just hearing this now may help you the next time you are about to respond to someone elses behavior. Someone who gets angry, verbally abusive, and storms off to drink might be holding in a lot of anger and holding back from wanting to hurt people so he protects others by hiding from them. And until that need is fulfilled, or theysnapout of it, the irrational personcan beunpredictable and sometimes even dangerous. It makes him keep the upper hand. I saw Pauls winkey-smiley-face below this comment, and it bothered me slightly be careful Paul! Let's face it, we all have a Bear in mind that it will not be so easy to effectively deal with them. If the person you are talking about relies on you for their happiness, nurturing, support and more, and doesnt have any of that for his or herself, then you are in a very high pressure situation where you always have to be that person that provides. Well, now I know better. He was livid, and also illogical. Science backs this up. When I learned to express even the most painful and sometimes embarrassing ones, thats when I started healing and creating better relationships (I had to ruin a few to get this far, thats for sure). They hope against hope that a logical argument will eventually work, if only they can come at this from the right angle. As for the story telling, I enjoyed creative writing in high school, but other than that, Ive had no specific training. How is that love at all, even during their first years of happy marriage? Though, from what youre saying, the family is being ripped apart regardless of what you do, so it almost sounds like a good idea to plan the separation the way you want it, instead of waiting for the chips to fall as people are continued to harmed in some way (at least mentally). Soaking up her vitriol and irrational emotional manipulations has not improved her behaviour and in my view has given her little incentive to change. However, learn to not take them personally. Life saving. Ive done the 4. Irrational people tend to have emotional outbursts frequently. You may still want to help your loved one when they are in the middle of a crisis. Its up to the emotional person to go, Hey, if you cant connect with me emotionally, I cant stay in this relationship. but many wont leave because theyre always searching for that emotion they see hints of but are never truly realized. Most people can see crazy. But being so affected by what other people think of you is never healthy. In reality she is causing enormous pain to her family. By the end of the conversation, he wasnt as agitated anymore. The police say I need a witness too. In fact, you might hate it, but accepting what you cannot change makes life a little easier. What happened next?. When someone is being irrational, they dont listen to reason, logic, or even common sense. I get it. This is where pacing and leading come in:. Hey I really liked this article I read the whole thing. Listen and Let Them Vent. I realize that this tip may not be that popular, but if this difficult person is someone you encounter regularly, you might want to make an effort at building rapport. Their reason might be based on the feelings or assumptions they have. When you do it though, its a new thing to them. Im assuming if the pacing part doesnt work out and it doesnt establish rapport, which from what i understand is the goal of pacing, then its a failed mission. When you get upset, frustrated, or angry, you will not find solutions to issues. The future and the unknown are two very scary things that Cancer would rather not deal with at least, not unless it's on his own time. So, we advise that you hop on to this train, and get to know how to deal with irrational people. Weve all seen someone overreact. I want you to tell me whats really on your mind, even if its hard to say. And for some people, irrational behavior can sometimes go on for years. Their daughter, now in her thirties, is completely irrational and says awful things to them and about them and others, that are not true and terribly hurtful. While you listen to them focus on facts alone. Just agree that its probably happening and theyre probably right and see what happens. What do you think will happen if someone uses strong words around you? For example, if someone calls you a jerk, you might get triggered. Theres a lot under the surface of what youre saying, and Im happy that you were able to express yourself here. But after reading this article, hopefully, youll have some tools under your belt to be able to deal with irrationality and all that it entails. The problem comes when they cant fulfill that need, so they continue to act irrationally. If you want to help Leo stop being irrational, or you just want to know how to deal with him, it's best if you just don't do anything at all. I have made several complaints about them. There is a section in my book called: How To Avoid Attracting The Wrong Partner that touches on some of what I talk about here, but I dont get too deep into the emotionally-connected partner and the emotionally-detached partner scenario. See how kind I was after that No! The tragic upshot is that she has succeeded in lying in court. This is suicidal. Even though the past can sometimes be destructive, Cancer can't help but hold on to it because it feels so familiar to him. The term irrational people is used to describe those who exhibit irrational behaviors. Actually looking someone in the eyes directly shows them respect and also shows that you wont back down. If youve been kind and apologetic and he wont accept it, it might be time to firm. GamesRadar+ takes you closer to the games, movies and TV you love. Im not saying that you should leave either. This will build inside of them causing behaviors like those I talk about above. Again, just be careful with it. If someone starts overreacting in front of you, just ask yourself, Do I have to deal with this right now? Before you can do this, you should have helped them see that you are on the same page. She was sleep deprived and severely overreacted. Of course, none of what I talk about may work at all if the person youre dealing with has a diagnosed mental condition. Tell me whats happening.. Did it happen often? She has counseled individuals and couples since 1968. Im not saying thats easy, but I do believe you have to get to a place where people being rude are obnoxious are more focused on being understood than anything else. When I finished watering the plants I went inside and googled irrational aggressive people. This may help to make the irrational person see your point. Leave a flower arrangement at her door. Reinforced evidence that what they believe isnt reality and 2. Please help me. My husband is the same with me and ours kids too. I want to thank you for your super article. He needs a reality check and the best way for him to get that reality check is by letting him complain. Important: If youve discovered that your own irrational behavior causes you to be emotionally abusive and youd like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).If you are currently in a relationship with someone who becomes irrational and is hurtful to you, listen to my podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties. After all, someone who is heavily intoxicated usually thinks they know what they want, but they are almost always just a little confused in some way. Those people probably wont change so now you have to look inward and ask yourself: Whats the worst case scenario? Gave me a victim support card and advised me to have a phone on record constantly if she was around. This is a result of their catastrophic thoughts. All emotion is personal to the person anyway, not to you. I referred to history and even sci-fi which that actually predicted future. I think if this ever comes up again, I would ask, Why would I pick someone else over you? and see how he answers. Now, do I mean that 100%? Im talking about your storytelling ability. But changing things up a bit. : not rational: such as. You have the ability to snap even if you are the kindest, most sincere person in the world. He'll want someone else to take the reins and solve his problems for him, but don't cave. Most people have at least one irrational fear, such as a dread of spiders or going to the dentist on a regular basis. It would be interesting to have a time machine to test your suggestion though! And realized that his own behavior might have been over the top. It's impossible to know whethersomeone who behaves irrationally can fundamentally change. Walk away or stay, but almost always you have a choice. He won't want to do anything that wasn't his idea in the first place and even then, he can be too lazy to actually get off of his butt and handle whatever is making him so irrational. Who cares about a stupid lawsuit? And without those, life is just a struggle. If I sawsomeone yelling at the top of their lungs in a restaurant, I would certainly think it wasirrational behavior. My blood was beginning to boil. No, reiteration is just words. The whole point of pacing is to be curious and act interested in everything they have to say. When he's acting irrational, he gets impatient and stubborn. Its a personal choice that makes my life a whole lot less stressful. Hahah. , Thanks, Paul. In a few minutes, they are going to let people get off the plane and youll be great. (The bolded words are the ones I emphasized to help her feel more calm)., She looked at me nervously. Hi Paul, I really enjoyed and found interesting your article. Happy and peaceful days to you. Since they are highly emotional and do not make use of logic, they only stick by what they feel and perceive. But, it sounds like some real tough love is needed here. The empty string is the special case where the sequence has length zero, so there are no symbols in the string. Whatever their feeling is at a moment is what they base their decisions or actions on. Dealing with irrational people is not easy. In fact, sometimes its better to be curious and act as if you agree with them, even when you absolutely dont. I knew about the podcast player at the top of the page. Now, its clear and obvious to most people shes mentally impaired. I honestly didnt expect this accurate of a diagnosis considering there werent much symptoms to work with. When I run into this, I look at the greater good: Is it better that they are unhappy with me and maybe even a jerk toward me, or is it better to help them get to a calmer, more reasonable space? Paul, what gift shall I get her? Everyone knows or has met at least one irrational person in their lives. If you want to disagree, youll get sucked in. Thanks for your comment Jake, I appreciate that! An irrational Pisces is one that is very impractical and whiny. Hence, their emotions can range from happiness to sadness, to anger or depression. The good news is that if you see the crazy in someone like this, other people see it too. Its all petty but insane. If you truly want to gain or regain the trust of someone else, you stop talking and DO something that shows that you are going to not be the person they see you as anymore. The sooner youre clear, the better. Youre a stable and strong individual, and it doesnt matter what someone else does to you, it wont affect you. The hardest part of this process is accepting your lack of control over others. And does he do what it takes to make that happen for you? Those who intentionally, repeatedly hurt others need to be avoided (or even arrested). When they answer, he gives them something from McDonalds, like a cheeseburger, apple pie, shake, etc. If nothing was wrong in the relationship as far as you know, then she must have been holding it in and not expressing it. He has no right to talk to anyone like that. We all need to take responsibility for our own lives, and if you leave them, it might be the catalyst they need to take responsibility. But if not, let me know! So, how can you calm down in the moment that theyre annoying you? I agree fully with all your points on storytelling. Could be any number of reasons he isnt speaking a truth to you, but you might want to ask him a hard question like, You know, you werent always like this. They try to use facts when facts are worthless. Hey Robert, thanks for sharing. She came out and very aggressively said you shouldnt be doing that well, I dont recall the exact words it was very aggressive and she was suggesting that running an electric cable was a danger somehow. Judging others makes us blind, whereas love is illuminating. They are laser-focused on fulfilling a need. If morality stops you from calming a potentially harmful or dangerous situation, then you end up with the results you end up with because of that morality. That doesnt mean youre bad, its just a matter of compatibility. But this No one wants wrinkles and dark circles under their eyes, but it's a common occurrence as people age. If they know, and they still dont do anything towards that goal, or dont even care, then the hard truth is that your marriage needs a lot of help. There were many times I was afraid of my stepfather, but I was never cornered with no way out so I guess I didnt need rescuing so to speak. Is there something else youre not telling me? This should help enormously. 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Instead of understanding or reasoning an issue or situation, they minimize the whole thing and focus on the punishing or negative part of things. Giving in due to a threat of violence will usually just assure future threats of violence. If he gets this way when youre reactive, then he is not a good communicator during those times. Big hugs. Itd be worth getting sued and going to jail just to see his face when I do it.. What makes him the most irrational, though, is that he's unable to let go of the past. Russell's teapot is an analogy, formulated by the philosopher Bertrand Russell (18721970), to illustrate that the philosophic burden of proof lies upon a person making empirically unfalsifiable claims, rather than shifting the burden of disproof to others.. Russell specifically applied his analogy in the context of religion. Its cute, then annoying, then frustrating, then scary, then (sometimes) dangerous. You will notice that they are now unconsciously pacing you. Ive been all over the internet for days looking for something like this. In the workplace, emotional intelligence certainly comes in handy. When Capricorn is acting irrational, he climbs up on his high horse and refuses to get down for anyone. Wow! I would love to start over. Anything close to that sentiment. They acted like crazy people. It appears her son was playing ball and knocked it off. 2022byTango Publishing Corporation All Rights Reserved. Lets wrestle!I said, No, I dont want to., Lets go, lets wrestle! and he started pushing me and lightly slapping me on the face. Search the world's information, including webpages, images, videos and more. Some nervousness is Interviews, reviews, and much more. That is not something I mentioned in the article at all. If you dont judge them, it gives them the benefit of the doubt, which is maybe all they need. How Four Families Are Redefining Holiday Traditions to Deal With Record High Inflation. When Gemini is being irrational, he acts very childishly. Oh, psychopaths like to focus on a victim. Perhaps thepatron feltlikehe wasbeing disrespected and cheated. If he wants attention and suddenly hes not getting it anymore, hell have to do something different to get it. So, you can do this: Test this theory by changing what happens around that time. Big sigh. Narcissist abuse is no joke and can seriously take its toll on your brain: When suffering consistent emotional abuse, victims experience a shrinking of the hippocampus and a swelling of the amygdala; both of these circumstances lead to devastating effects.. At this point, I would keep all these points in mind as I continued my writing. A final thought: Many emotionally detached people use words as a way to benefit only themselves and no one else. If you need to honor yourself and leave the relationship, thats where your focus needs to be. I know someone who wanted to be accepted as a liar and cheater. child, sibling etc but they are consistently irrational in their appraisal of situations and abusive towards you due to their distorted emotional over reactions to everything, you are in danger of colluding with this abusive behaviour by not naming it. One thing that comes to mind is that you cannot possibly override someones overreaction to things. Honestly you cant listen to her because she says things that dont make rational sense. I have described her as irrational and aggressive many times so it rings a bell but what I could not figure out was why not everyone saw it. If he doesnt, then I cant even recognize that there is a marriage here. ( oh have I mentioned she has an awful voice?) You handled it!, I never saw her again after that but Id like to think that in the future if shes ever in that kind of situation again, she will believe that she can get through it just like she did before.. Domestic violence and addictions are a problem. I lost nothing by giving her a mission to get off the plane. Theres a technique called pacing and leading that I want to teach you. Your first goal should be to get to a point where both parties can communicate respectfully even if its only for five minutes at a time. I wasnt intentionally pacing or leading Jai, I was approaching it from both sides of the coin. This kind of volatility is almost impossible to be around because you are in a constant state of fear. Anderson Lee Aldrich loaded bullets into a Glock pistol and chugged vodka, ominously warning frightened grandparents not to stand in the way of an elaborate plan to stockpile guns, ammo, body armor and a homemade bomb to become the next mass killer. You guys die today and I'm taking you with me, they quoted Narcissistic rage occurs when that core instability is threatened and furthermore threatened to destabilize them even further. Mark Goulston, M.D., Rage Coming Soon From A Narcissist Near You. Why you do something is the motivation for the logic, otherwise, youd have no reason for the logic. So many problems would be rectified a lot easier if you just seek to understand the person. Who knows actually, maybe if I had yelled at her, she would have been more scared of me than anything and would have acted differently from that point on. I also walked away knowing more than I ever knew before that point. They may have just received some bad news or maybe they are in the midst of a huge life-changing event. It was worth saving a friendship on what was probably an honest miscommunication, rather than be attached to being right. Be honest. Keeping a sense of humour helps! Thank you for sharing this. At some point, you may have to agree to disagree and be prepared to walk away. If the couple has not talked about the loss of her brother (their son) in a way that is very vulnerable, that may have increased tension and repressed emotions. Its irrational to think he can possibly get away, as police officers can call ahead to their buddies and eventually capture the suspect. It shows that you care and want to learn everything you can about their situation. In March, 2011 she slammed the communal front gate in my leg because she was angry still that I had watered a hanging basket the afternoon before. Shes paid work men to lie about me. You can say things like is that all that is bothering you? or please if there is more, tell me, When they are done venting out, you should still acknowledge their feelings. I think a lot of people make a lot of enemies based on principle and pride. Some might get wrapped up in everyday drama but arent saying anything about it. An irrational Cancer is a moody one. Ive never taken a class on writing stories. The similarities are so uncanny that I was startled to read your brief biography. Experience will tell you which is most helpful. Would love your thoughts, please comment. From there on, they will be calm to listen to you better. Wow Amy, Im so glad this helped you. Whether he tries his hardest to stay in control or just lets it happen to him, when Virgo is acting irrational, he can get picky and overwhelmed. These 4 Zodiac Signs Were Born To Be Difficult, According To Astrology. Sure, perhaps your conditions have a lot to do with it, but its worth eliminating one thing at a time to figure out the issue. Dont take anything they say personally. Through patience, reflection and heeding the advice of more experienced people, Ive learned how to deal with irrationality in a way that causes minimal damage. Formally, a string is a finite, ordered sequence of characters such as letters, digits or spaces. I also know about podcasts and things like speaking into a recorder then typing it down. Or perhaps you could become super resilient and not let anything bother you, but everyone has a breaking point. She played the race and swearing card against me and Ive been told that our police who have had a poor history to live down regards racism in the past are scared of her. In your example, you helped the lady in the plane fulfill her need. You teach people that the number one thing to do is help them feel cared about, which calms them down. The rest of the articles were written after the show where I just went off on a subject that I covered on the show, but wrote out more thoughts. We might get it, but we dont have to like it. So, after you have confirmed their feelings, encourage them to say more. Not many people know what to do with them so they try to please them in any way possible so theyll stop being irrational. Sounds like the type of person that doesnt know how to express himself. The real question I asked myself that day was, Did he really believe what he was saying, or was he trying to pull one over on me?. Irrational people want two things; they want attention and emotional reaction. Correct? The police have been my stumbling block instead of my support system. Its their job to love unconditionally if they promised that level of love (rare is the person willing to admit less publicly thats embarrassing, or should be), but some people just easily give in to the temptations that other people put in front of them like a stumbling block. And I can see the usefulness of the approach you take to writing (creatively with emotions vs informally). In fact, I believe most people, including depressed people, are responsible for their own behavior. She turned everything around and blamed me by making false counter allegations. And if you continue to show youre on their side, they may figure out that perhaps their reality isnt as crazy as they believe it is. If I were with someone like this, Id wait for a calm time then ask him a question like, I know its a touchy subject, but when youre ready, can we talk about ____? This way, you are being passive and not reactive. Then I fast forward and think about if Ive recovered and healed from that event. This is because they feel justified in their mind by their action or reaction. She wanted no part of it and left the relationship. If however what youre saying is that you want to honor yourself and get out of a relationship that is not healthy or does not work for you, then thats a different story. And she has had the police and our mutual landlord, postma, a couple of other neighbours buying into her irrayijal thinking. Join a diverse club, organization, team, or workforceRead up about other peoples backgrounds and histories.Listen to their stories. Dont be afraid to ask, but do so respectively! Like you, I had depression. This takes a bit of work too because you are helping them go down rabbit holes that they normally wouldnt go down. We talked most of the trip about different things, and she casually mentioned how shes usually a little claustrophobic when she flies. Finding productive ways to work with irrational people isnt easy. How to get an account or test the platform? However if you have any fears come up when they are being the the way they are, what are those fears? !function(r,u,m,b,l,e){r._Rumble=b,r[b]||(r[b]=function(){(r[b]._=r[b]._||[]).push(arguments);if(r[b]._.length==1){l=u.createElement(m),e=u.getElementsByTagName(m)[0],l.async=1,l.src="https://rumble.com/embedJS/ug6pt"+(arguments[1].video?'. The promises are there to eliminate irrational fear of breakup, which works if the people werent liars. If you dont think you can do that or decide that it might be too dangerous, then just make sure to get you and anyone else involved out of danger. Let me know if this helps! The idea is to be so flexible in your pacing that you come to a place that is comfortable to THEM, not necessarily YOU. You dont know who you are. Overreacting usually stems from letting emotion cloud your logic. If you have to interact them a lot more than youd like, then its time to have an honest conversation with them. People get very attached to being right and they wont let go of it, especially when other people are in opposition. I have been known to honor my boundaries and tell someone to back off when they are being irrational. Traits of Irrational People How to Deal with Irrational People 1. You see, I was born hearing but am now 100% deaf (so I cant listen to the episode to know for sure). If I were you, I might do some ethical manipulation. This helps more than you can imagine! Sign me up for Brave New Worlds soma. That woman knew what she was doing. But if I never first paced her experience, or chose to seek to understand her first, and just said, You need to calm down right now, she may have completely lost it. He was still listening and responding to reason. I believe he truly mixed up the days, but my friend indicated he would make it work or even leave early but my brother after a two hour trip down wouldnt even talk to him. Dealing with irrational people can seriously affect your peace of mind. All rights Reserved. Again, I dont have all the details, but I hope this helps! Its true there could have been negotiation, but at that moment, in the nanoseconds I had to think, I decided that it was better to err on the side that I actually could have been wrong and that the friendship, though soured a bit in that moment, was worth more than wanting to be right or opening negotiations that might further exacerbate an already sensitive situation. When Aries is being irrational, it's important to deal with him in a way that makes him feel like he's still in control of the situation. To use social login you have to agree with the storage and handling of your data by this website. Again, loud or obnoxious people are tough to be around in the first place. Saving Money. I believe this behavior is hardwired in us. Its not about you, its about them trying to convey a message in the only way they know how. So, take a deep breath in and breathe out. Youre right, you can become emotionally drained because you have to be someone youre not. When someone is being irrational, they dont listen to reason, logic, or even common sense. If the pain is too great for an emotionally detached person to deal with, theyll do or say whatever it takes so that they dont have to feel pain. He would say Im being rational, negative, when this kid was rich and being pampered for having autism. I wont react, Ill just listen. If its getting worse, ask the question I mentioned at the beginning of my comment. How often does that work? Its a really neat trick, but you do have to be careful how you use it. It can be draining for sure. It really comes down to who is going to lead the other persons state of mind. A man obsessed is not someone you want around you. Act with integrity. No matter what the police do to convince this person, they will not pull over. Your Irrational Side One of the best ways to handle the irrationality of others is to acknowledge and make peace with your own irrational side. Also read another one called When Others Arent Ready for You to Evolve which also briefly covers how you stood up to your stepfather. Because you arent showing them resistance. Now he says hell never give up on me. She nodded, waiting for her orders I said:. Alright, heres what I want you to do. Find a therapist!. Irrational behavior happens when weve reached the tipping point, and we have to just let it out. Will you do this for me? Temporarily mentally ill? Sometimes you have to get away from people that simply cannot conform to societal or personal standards and boundaries. Youd be bitter too if other people treated you like this! Its important to catch that as soon as possible. On the surface dealing with irrational behavior can seem a daunting task but with a few important steps, it can become quite manageable. Now my friend also paid me some money but I didnt feel as if I had to give him that information. Enter your account data and we will send you a link to reset your password. There is amble evidence that eye contact is highly compelling. Unfortunately, some people dont express whats really happening inside them so theyll act out in other ways that have nothing to do with what theyre really upset about. If I were you, just keep track of everything because if it gets worse and the police have to get involved, youll want to sound like the sane one. He let go of rationality and reason and grabbed a gun. I found none, but it made me think about my abuse at 4 and how no one was there for me. Sir Louis & Princess must deal with the aftermath of Love. Unfortunately, my stepfathers alcoholism made it extremely challenging for our family to teach or train him to be anything but his abusive self. Self-reflection comes easier when theres compassion in the midst of chaos. Ah, got it! I had never met someone so irrational and aggressive before. Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. An example of that is someone who believes he is being abducted every night by aliens. They assume the fun of dating will continue, but parenting.. ah, parenting. Youve done what you can. They will get burnt out and it never ends with mutual feelings. Whether its a family member, a colleague, or a friend, its important to understand how to deal with irrational people. 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